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Question: My boyfriend broke up with me because of his depression. what can i do?

(Posted by: BMF on 2010-03-14 15:31:34)

My boyfriend recently called things off between us because he is in a pretty deep depression and was emotionally and physically unavailable. He told me he didn't think I deserved what little he was giving me right now. I spoke with him last night and he told me he missed me and that he is grateful for my support and that he's not trying to push me away. I haven't heard from him all day today and can't help but miss him and wonder why he hasn't called or initiated us getting together if he misses me too. What should I do?

Posted by: redbird on 2010-03-14, 15:37:37

You can do nothing. His depression is his problem, not yours. You can't fix it even if you try really hard to do everything right and give him everything that you think he needs. He is the only one that can take steps to help himself. Do yourself a favor and back off or you will find out first hand about depression because he will bring you down with him, even if he doesn't want to or mean to. About all you can do is give him a call every few days as any good, supportive friend would, but look elsewhere for your own emotional ties.

Posted by: John on 2010-03-14, 15:33:28

Get him to talk to someone and get him on meds if you want to be supportive and perhaps have a relationship with him. Depression may never go away, but it can be managed.